I’ve even made lists of Things I’m NOT Going to Do.
Such lists are useful. They help us set priorities so that we can control our lives. Otherwise we’d be lost, going nowhere at the mercy of distractions. Or worse, we’d be driven by other people’s agendas.
One day, I realized that there were 3 essential things that belonged at the top of my list of Things To Do.
Thing to Do #1: Be Happy
Sometimes we have to work at being happy.
Your inner self and your outer self are connected. So a smile outside brings a smile inside.
In addition, a smile makes you more attractive and more approachable, which helps you achieve more.
Pause for a moment to take a deep breath that goes all the way to the bottom of your lungs. Then let it out slowly.
While doing this, focus on your breath going in and going out.
Let go of impossible problems that are beyond your control.
Imagine that you’re putting them all in a bag. Then tie the bag to a large balloon and let it go.
Smile and wave goodbye while you watch the bag float away into the clouds.
Thing to Do #2: Be Loving
Loving kindness always helps you feel better.
Find and acknowledge good things that others are doing.
For example, I practice on my cat. I tell her that she’s a good cat dozens of times each day. I also tell trees, “Good tree.” And I tell birds, “Good bird.”
I do this because I hear what I’m saying. So I’m actually praising myself when I praise others.
After all, I’m a good cat, too.
Focus on what can be done. And then talk about that.
Focus on what is possible. And talk about that.
Focus on solutions. And talk about them.
Always find positive possibilities. And then share them with others.
Do small things that help others.
Open doors for people. Let someone go ahead of you. Drive respectfully.
Every favor that you perform is actually a gift of feeling useful that you give yourself.
Thing to Do #3: Be Grateful
Being grateful creates a sense of abundance.
Say Thank You
Begin by thanking people for anything and everything.
Thank people for helping you. Thank people for spending time with you. Thank people for being who they are.
Thank people when they send you an e-mail.
Take inventory of everything that is good.
Write out a list so that you can add to it and refer to it later. Or keep a gratitude journal where you list good things each day.
If you need a start here’s an idea to put at the top of your list: I’m alive .
Help others do good things so that you can thank them.
This by the way, is the key to extraordinary leadership. Great leaders help others exceed their expectations of what they thought was possible.
If you give these thing things highest priority on your To Do list, everything else will become easier.