10 Oct Adversity | Oct 2021
How to Manage Adversity
We all encounter adversity.
And I’ll agree that adversity can be painful.
Certainly, we’d prefer to avoid conflict, tension, or pain.
But then we might become bored and cause a little adversity, just to keep life interesting.
So what can we do when confronted by adversity?
Consider this simple example: You’re cold because a window is open.
So you have three options when dealing with the adversity of being cold:
1) Change the situation. (e.g., close the window)
2) Change yourself. (e.g., put on a jacket)
3) Leave. (e.g., go to another room)
Now here are three personal examples:
#1) Solution: Change the Project
This summer I was finding very few birds in local parks. So I started taking photos of butterflies. Thus, I changed the situation from taking photos of birds to taking photos of butterflies.
This led to a new area of photography.
As a result, I have hundreds of photos of butterflies.
#2) Solution: Change the Interpretation
A few years ago I was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia (CLL), which is a slow growth cancer. This could be depressing news, even though the oncologist told me it might be ten or twenty years before I’d need to start treatments.
So I began making books. Thus, I changed my view of this news from terrible to inspirational.
As a result, I’ve made ten books. (See link below)
#3) Solution: Leave and Start a New Project
In 1992 the company that I was working for conducted another layoff. Rather than cope with such uncertainty, I decided to take control of my future.
So I took an “early retirement.” Thus, I left to start a new career as a professional speaker.
As a result, I spent 20 years showing people how to be effective leaders followed by almost ten years inspiring respect for nature.
The Reason I Wrote This Article
Even though adversity can be painful, it can lead to achievements we might never have considered.
So I wrote this to show what’s possible. And to encourage you to convert adversities into victories.
The General Plan
When you respond to adversity, use these steps:
1) Accept what happened. Recognize that everything changes. And nothing lasts forever.
2) Explore options. Ask yourself questions and then write lists of answers. Then discuss possibilities with family and friends.
3) Ask others for help, ideas, and support. Then chose those ideas that best fit your situation. Note that this can include joining a group or an organization that provides a structure for solutions and support.
4) Do what you can with what you have. Begin with one small step, and then continue. Note that taking this first step is the critical action toward making any change.
5) Seek lessons from every response. Then use these lessons to adjust and improve.
6) Be kind to yourself. Thus, avoid anything that might increase suffering.
7) Never let adversity stop you. It may cause you to pause, take a detour, or make changes. Just know there is always an answer, always a solution, always a way waiting to be found. And sometimes these changes can lead to gains that are better than your original situation.
PS – The A2 Alliance helps people manage adversity. See: https://a2aalliance.org
Find More at:
Books by Steve Kaye – Ten Books and Counting
The Other Side of the Speaking Business – What the Speaking Business Is Really Like
Gratitude Now – Powerful Way to Cope
Practice – A New Perspective
Did You Know?
The most effective way to help birds is to buy land.
Here are three organizations that excel at doing this.
Please visit their web sites to learn about the work they do.
Here’s an excellent book: The American Bird Conservancy Guide to Bird Conservation