Why Kindness?Why Kindness, Image made by Steve Kaye, (c) Steve Kaye

Or more specifically, why would you want to be kind?

Actually, kindness is practical and smart.

Here’s why:

1) You Feel Better

Kindness is a reward in itself. So when you act with kindness, you know that you behaved well.

In fact, kindness is the natural human response. If you have ever watched small children play, you will see that they cooperate, help each other, and share. They act with pure kindness toward each other.

In contrast, meanness leaves a person feeling dirty.

2) You Feel Safer

Kindness builds positive relationships. It creates alliances. And it leads to friendships.

So you feel safer when you act with kindness.

In contrast, meanness creates enemies, which leads to fears of retaliation.

3) You Feel Useful

Kindness is essential for making a society (or relationship) successful. For example, people are more effective when they live and work as a team. And effective teamwork is based on each member helping the others achieve success.

So showing kindness helps you feel like an active participant in a functioning society.

In contrast, meanness degrades a society (or relationship) with anti-social behavior.

And there’s more:

4) You Become More Attractive

People like being with those who act with kindness. This matters in both business and personal relationships.

In addition, consistent kindness builds trust. And trust is essential for agreements that lead to promotions, progress, and sales.

In contrast, people avoid those who are mean (even if this happens occasionally).

5) You Become More Effective

People who are kind can devote more time to building achievements, implementing solutions, and making progress.

They also gain more support from others because everyone prefers to work with people who behave well.

In contrast, people who act with meanness waste time on repairs and damage control.

One More Point

Kindness must work both ways.

So we begin by treating everyone with kindness. If the other person responds with kindness, the relationship continues. But if the other person responds with meanness, the relationship needs to move on.

Recognize that meanness can bait someone into either: 1) Retaliating, or 2) Attempting to protect themselves. Both of these responses are forms of meanness.

Thus, it is important to leave dysfunctional relationships before they harm you. (Yes, make a sincere attempt to resolve them, because one act of meanness may have been a mistake. If the meanness continues, then ask yourself whether the relationship is worth the pain.)

And the kindest way to leave is: Just go.

Go without trying to explain or teach anything. Just walk away. Just disappear. And start over somewhere else.

Find Ideas More at:

27 Ways to Be Kind (27 easy, practical ideas)

Gift of Kindness (Story about the Kindness Coin)